Meditation & Health #13-A Parent’s Guide to Raising Children
A Parent’s Guide to Raising Children
Parents love their children and want them to develop Into healthy, happy and successful adults. Master. Jinbodhi otters inspiring Insights on how to nurture children.
If we want our children to grow up healthy and happy, we need to respect them as independent individuals instead of regarding them as ‘dependents” we can control. Even if our children are young. we have to respect their Individuality. For instance, when we ask our child to close the door, we should be sure to soy “please” and “thank you.” When we talk to our young children, it is wise to kneel so that our head will be at the same height and we can look into their eyes. By doing so, we make it easier for them to communicate with us.
Watch What You Say
As parents, we need to watch what we say. Some parents have an arrogant attitude toward children and often threaten them with words such as ‘If you don’t eat well, you won’t get strong,” and so forth. Some kids may take this pressure as motivation to do better; however, lots of kids will feel depressed about the future. It becomes a daunting prospect that they lose confidence In. As adults, we need to be careful of what we say to children. Each child has a unique learning style: Some learn fast but perhaps superficially, while others learn slowly but perhaps profoundly. If a child doesn’t seem to be making adequate progress, some teachers and parents get annoyed. However, it is very possible that the child has been absorbing everything quietly without showing it.
Adults need to be patient and refrain from jumping to premature judgments. Any negative comment we make night block a young mind’s confidence about mastering a skill. When it comes to very young children, accompany them when they are learning something new. Young children are easily threatened by new people, settings and challenges. Youngsters who are in the early stages of learning a skill feel more at ease if they are accompanied by a parent.
If it isn’t too much of a stretch in terms of finances, time and energy I support the idea of letting young kids learn some extra skids outside of the classroom which will be useful and enriching throughout their lives. As parents, we should observe and listen to our children carefully, so we get to know our children’s wants and needs. We must be aware of the different physical and psychological phases children will go through at different ages.
I strongly suggest all parents read one or two books on child development so that they can have some idea of how children evolve. Looking at a child’s behavior from an adult point of view Is not always helpful, as it can lead to judging typical behaviors as unreasonable. For instance, young children often ask parents to read the same story repeatedly. An adult mind is always looking for new stimulation and thus repetitive activities are boring to a grown person. But if parents know that this Is a normal port of child development it is more likely that o youngster’s need would take precedence over on adult’s boredom.
Parents should step back from their personal judgment and treat their children with compassion. Even If we begin to lose patience, we should be aware of our feelings and refrain from saying hurtful wads. Threatening words are damaging to children who don’t know that what they are hearing Is untrue.
Guide Them to their Path
Allow children to follow the call of their heart and make their own life path. We should guide our children’s energy and attention wisely instead of blocking them. Apropos this guidance, a Buddhist maxim says it well: -Go along with the conditions and relevant elements: if a Child often gets into fights, he might need to play sports in order to release the strong energy inside him. Criticism and punishment alone may not stop such a child from fighting. A positive way to channel intense energy would be essential.It’s Important that parents provide opportunities for children to explore freely so that they can discover heir own interests and develop a wide variety of skills. Exploring a particular interest can lead to revelations about other aspects of life. Cooking, for example, is one of many pursuits and experiences that teach one about balance and timing, which both apply to relationships.
To help our children develop a sense of social responsibility, we should encourage them to visit the home of on elderly person or o retirement home and offer their help a provide comfort and Joy by simply talking or singing. No matter how small a child’s helpful gesture may seem, it Plants a seed of love in a young heart If this seed is nourished continuously, it will grow into a big love. Through one small gesture of compassion at a time, a child’s heart expands to include many instead of just him or herself. A youngster with a large, loving heart who combines that heart with knowledge and skills grows up to be powerful.
Children are lithe sponges. A spark of inspiration can ignite a bonfire of positive action. Children’s unpolluted minds know no limits. Give them a drop of water and they will harvest an ocean. Sow a seed of compassion in them and they will do big things for humankind.